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The Haunting - Annie McFarland

I had a whole different blog post brewing in my mind for today, it was going to be witty and fun and playful and about The Hammer. . . .and then I went to bed last night. 
Y’all. . .I was haunted by a ghost last night! I promise you, I am not making this up. It wasn’t so much the white shape, floating and saying booooooo. . . it was a vivid dream variety of haunting. It was one of those dreams that felt like I was actually there and I remember every detail, I remember all the feelings.This dream has been floating around my mind all day and I keep going back to, what could it mean? So. . .I have to ask your opinion. . .do you think the ghosts or spirits or souls of our lost loved ones come to us in dreams? Do you think they are with us as we go about our days? OR is it simply our expression of missing that person so you bring them back to you in your dreams? I know that I have told my kids that their dad is always with them. I’m not sure if that is just one of those things that I am supposed to say to provide them comfort or if I actually believe it. But, if I really take a moment to think about it, it feels kinda creepy. Who wants their dad watching over your shower or sneaking a beer from the fridge? For the 12 years that Cody has been gone, I have had conversations with him about our children. On our son’s graduation day, I looked up at the sky and quietly said, ‘you are missing all of this and you should be here’. On the days when my beautiful daughter is riding my last nerve, I look up and not so quietly shout, ‘why did you leave me here alone to deal with this’?!?!?! I think I do this as a comfort to myself in the moments that overwhelm me and I want to feel like I am not alone in raising the two children that we decided to have. But do I actually believe I am communicating with him? I don’t think I do. Here’s where I get stuck and this may seem like I am wandering off on to a completely different topic but just stay with me for a moment. Personally, I am not a believer in psychics. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it if you do but here’s my hangup. How do I know if what I am being told about my future is actually what my future holds or do I then create the future I was told by the psychic? For example, I have a girlfriend who is a huge believer in psychics. She goes to the same girl regularly for advice on her life. The psychic told her that she was going to marry a man whos name started with an H and he was going to be in the medical field. After my gf heard that, she refused to speak to anyone that did not match that criteria. She waited for years, believing that she was to marry Harry, the medical guy! Finally, she gave up and married a contractor named John. Clearly, her future was not as the psychic told but she spent years of her life trying to make it happen. So how do I know that what I’m being told is really my future and not what I will create after hearing it. Now, I promised I would roll back around to my haunting and here it is. How do I know if the haunting was actually Cody visiting me last night or was it just a dream? I feel like we can rewrite anything if we just believe it enough, hell I’m 40-something years old and I still believe in Santa! I wonder if I had a moment before bed where he came to my mind and I created a visit for some unnerving reason. I wish I wasn’t so jaded and that I actually believed that he popped in for a quick visit but at the end of the day, I think it was just a dream. What do you think?
- Annie


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  • Annie, I talk to dead family too, and sometimes I think they try to talk to me, but yeah, thinking they are watching my every move is just creepy. My hubby of 40 years has been gone for 5 years now, my dad for 3 years (and much as I love her, I’m always asking him how dd he put up with her for almost 66 years??? He gives me advice about that! And how about ghosts who aren’t dead yet? Have you ever been woken up from a cold sleep by your mom calling your name? and she’s almost 100 miles away? Who can sleep after that? You gotta lay there in panic and wait at least until sunrise to call and check on her and she just says, “Oh, I was thinking about calling you today too,” God love us! Yeah, that’s a real haunting!

    Jenny Pfeiler on

  • Annie,
    I truly believe anything is possible! I believe that our loved ones that have passed, come to us when we miss them or just need some reassurance about something happening in our lives! It’s really what do you believe?😁

    Dallas Anderson on

  • my husband passed whn my boys were 2 and 8. I know that he has told me to slow down multiple times because there were deer on the road ahead: and I did and there was! i think you have to be open to it- ir was just a fleeting thought passing through- slow down deer ahead- i hesitate to call it that. but do i believe you thought of Cody and then you thought about him in your dreams? sure why not. it isn’t utong anything and makes you feel good

    linda on

  • So after my youngest grandson was born a couple of weeks ago with the cord around his neck there was fear and anxiety. Without knowing how he was doing I had a dream that I was following a woman with short dark hair around. I was trying to protect her. I followed her through the door in my garage that leads to my house. Only we went into my daughters victorian home in Wisconsin. I followed her up the stairs and into my daughters room. She bent over and kissed my grandson, then looked at me with the most beautiful smile. It was my mother who has been gone for 8 years. The very next day my daughter was told her son was doing well enough that he could go home.

    KimAnn on

  • I am a true believer cause I live it everyday! Just think of it as a visit that either you needed or he needed. Either way it’s pretty cool that our loved ones find ways to still reach out to us. I find it very comforting

    Karen Gilland on

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