The Haunting - Annie McFarland

I had a whole different blog post brewing in my mind for today, it was going to be witty and fun and playful and about The Hammer. . . .and then I went to bed last night. 
Y’all. . .I was haunted by a ghost last night! I promise you, I am not making this up. It wasn’t so much the white shape, floating and saying booooooo. . . it was a vivid dream variety of haunting. It was one of those dreams that felt like I was actually there and I remember every detail, I remember all the feelings.This dream has been floating around my mind all day and I keep going back to, what could it mean? So. . .I have to ask your opinion. . .do you think the ghosts or spirits or souls of our lost loved ones come to us in dreams? Do you think they are with us as we go about our days? OR is it simply our expression of missing that person so you bring them back to you in your dreams? I know that I have told my kids that their dad is always with them. I’m not sure if that is just one of those things that I am supposed to say to provide them comfort or if I actually believe it. But, if I really take a moment to think about it, it feels kinda creepy. Who wants their dad watching over your shower or sneaking a beer from the fridge? For the 12 years that Cody has been gone, I have had conversations with him about our children. On our son’s graduation day, I looked up at the sky and quietly said, ‘you are missing all of this and you should be here’. On the days when my beautiful daughter is riding my last nerve, I look up and not so quietly shout, ‘why did you leave me here alone to deal with this’?!?!?! I think I do this as a comfort to myself in the moments that overwhelm me and I want to feel like I am not alone in raising the two children that we decided to have. But do I actually believe I am communicating with him? I don’t think I do. Here’s where I get stuck and this may seem like I am wandering off on to a completely different topic but just stay with me for a moment. Personally, I am not a believer in psychics. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it if you do but here’s my hangup. How do I know if what I am being told about my future is actually what my future holds or do I then create the future I was told by the psychic? For example, I have a girlfriend who is a huge believer in psychics. She goes to the same girl regularly for advice on her life. The psychic told her that she was going to marry a man whos name started with an H and he was going to be in the medical field. After my gf heard that, she refused to speak to anyone that did not match that criteria. She waited for years, believing that she was to marry Harry, the medical guy! Finally, she gave up and married a contractor named John. Clearly, her future was not as the psychic told but she spent years of her life trying to make it happen. So how do I know that what I’m being told is really my future and not what I will create after hearing it. Now, I promised I would roll back around to my haunting and here it is. How do I know if the haunting was actually Cody visiting me last night or was it just a dream? I feel like we can rewrite anything if we just believe it enough, hell I’m 40-something years old and I still believe in Santa! I wonder if I had a moment before bed where he came to my mind and I created a visit for some unnerving reason. I wish I wasn’t so jaded and that I actually believed that he popped in for a quick visit but at the end of the day, I think it was just a dream. What do you think?
- Annie

22 comments


  • Amber Moore

    I believe wholeheartedly our lived one visit us.. Mine do often.. Psychics well grain if salt them one told me my mom was sick and needed med attention a yr before she died.. She wouldn’t listen and got help to late


  • Michelle Fonner

    I don’t necessarily believe in psychics but I believe in premonitions. I have a thing for seeing into the future somewhat, or a knowing/prediction of what will play out in my future. I have had family and friends come through at the end of their life to pass messages along. I have also had a friend reach out to me while he was unconscious in a vehicle accident to tell me what was going on. It creeps me out but I now let family know what I see in my sleep. If I have a gut feeling I follow it, if that makes sense. So I think he needed to tell you something and see where it goes, if it plays out start listening to your thoughts/dreams more!


  • Charlene Waters

    I am here to tell you that dreams are absolutely a way for spirit to communicate with you. I have special gifts – I don’t tell many people unless I have something specific to tell them or unless you are someone close to me. I can see and speak to spirits and I also have empathic gifts. I can’t explain why or how I know things. I just do. But just because I tell you this doesn’t mean you have to believe. That is the beauty of choice. I always say to my husband vanilla chocolate and strawberry which is my way of saying we all like different things. Just because I like strawberry and you don’t doesn’t mean I’m wrong, it just means we’re different.
    You talking to Cody or telling your kids he is always with them is absolutely 100% your way of connecting to him (and no – that doesn’t mean he’s there for private or secret moments lol).
    There are always little signs that most of us miss. Maybe you hear a whisper and no one is around or you feel your dog brush against your legs but they aren’t near you. It could be as simple as finding dimes instead of pennies.

    While I haven’t had the opportunity to meet you personally but I am a fan and from the looks of things you have raised two beautiful and amazing kids and have really tried to keep Cody in mind in choices you’ve made. It’s a beautiful thing to see.
    💕


  • MArlene GIer-Kozik

    When my 25 yr old sister was killed in a car accident the very day she found out she was pregnant, it devastated our family! Sadder still, I had a premonition 5 months earlier she would be dead by Thanksgiving. She died Nov 8. I ate my depression and gained 150 lbs!! The rest of my family chose alcohol. My other sister died 2 yrs ago of liver failure. My parents are also dead. My sister from the car accident came to me a year after the accident in a dream. She told me to save myself. My children needed me, told me I would have 2 more children (I did). Told me I would need to be strong. She said the alcohol was keeping her from talking to the rest of the family. I think I believe we are visited by our departed, but also believe their visit is always out of love. If your haunting did not have the feeling of love to guide you to be a better person or calm a stress, then I would suspect it as not genuine. Just my opinion.


  • MArlene GIer-Kozik

    When my 25 yr old sister was killed in a car accident the very day she found out she was pregnant, it devastated our family! Sadder still, I had a premonition 5 months earlier she would be dead by Thanksgiving. She died Nov 8. I ate my depression and gained 150 lbs!! The rest of my family chose alcohol. My other sister died 2 yrs ago of liver failure. My parents are also dead. My sister from the car accident came to me a year after the accident in a dream. She told me to save myself. My children needed me, told me I would have 2 more children (I did). Told me I would need to be strong. She said the alcohol was keeping her from talking to the rest of the family. I think I believe we are visited by our departed, but also believe their visit is always out of love. If your haunting did not have the feeling of love to guide you to be a better person or calm a stress, then I would suspect it as not genuine. Just my opinion.


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